How do I RSVP?

You can RSVP online. We’ll be mailing invitations in mid-March, and they’ll include an invitation code you can use on the RSVP web page.

When is the RSVP deadline?

Please respond no later than April 11, 2026.

Can I bring a plus one?

Check the RSVP web page — if you’re invited with a guest, you’ll see an option to add one. Your envelope will also be addressed to you “and Guest.” We’ve been mindful of our budget and aiming for a smaller wedding while making these arrangements, and we appreciate your understanding.

Will there be children at the wedding?

No, we have decided on an adult-only wedding to keep an intimate atmosphere. We hope that you will still be able to attend, and are sorry if this makes it difficult.

What should I wear?

We suggest cocktail attire (semiformal). For men, we’d suggest a nice pair of slacks, shoes, and a button down shirt (tie optional). For women, a cocktail dress, or a nice skirt and blouse, etc.

Is the wedding indoors or outdoors?

Both! Weather permitting, we will be having our ceremony in the museum’s “Formal Garden”, and dinner/dance reception in the Library/Tented Pavilion.

What time should I arrive?

Guests are welcome to arrive starting at 4:00pm. Feel free to wander the grounds and visit the galleries. Our ceremony will begin at 4:30pm. Note that the museum is open to the public until 4:45pm.

I am coming from out of state, where can I stay?

We have reserved a block of rooms at the Hilton Garden Inn (2.6 mi. away) for the night of the wedding and the night before. Book using “Group Code” DAHBAR to get the group rate. If you want to reserve a room in the block, you must do so before April 8. We have more details on our travel page.

How do I get to and from the venue?

We’ll have a shuttle to take guests from the Hilton Garden Inn to the venue. It will arrive at 3:00pm and leave for the museum at 3:15pm, then do another round trip to transport any stragglers. Later in the evening, it will arrive at the venue at 9:45pm and depart at 10:15pm to bring guests back to the hotel.

There is also parking available at the museum for those driving themselves, including limited handicap-permit parking.

What if I have dietary restrictions?

Please note how we can accommodate you in your RSVP.

Do you have a registry?

We are not requesting any gifts. Instead, we’d love for you to consider donating to one of the following charities:

How did you two meet?

We met on Tinder in 2018, when we were both living in Maryland. Andrew’s profile mentioned that he liked museums, which caught Ellen’s eye. We went on to have many museum dates in the DC area. In 2021, Andrew bought his grandmother’s house on Long Island and relocated to New York. Ellen joined him soon after, with one stipulation: we needed to get a cat. About a year later, we adopted Jeff from Last Hope Animal Shelter. Last December, a few days after Christmas, Andrew asked Ellen to marry him, and here we are!